Last year, Lebron James and Chris Bosh joined Dwayne Wade in Miami and promised not one, not two, not three… not even seven championships. I can only assume Lebron was implying they would win multiple championships and not that they would consistently find themselves on the wrong end of a championship celebration as they did against Dallas last season.
The Heat took a great deal of – well – heat last year because of their arrogance. Some disrespect was directed at Chris Bosh for being an emotional person. He was rumored to be the one crying after a regular season loss to the Bulls. Then there was his emotional walk down the tunnel after losing the championship to the Mavericks in Game 6 of the Finals.
It’s tough to see, but at the beginning of this clip Bosh literally collapses on his way to the locker room. Many saw this as one more opportunity to pile on Bosh referring to him as “Big Baby Bosh” calling him a wimp or worse and telling him to “Man up, dude!”
Here’s the deal. It’s easy to pile on a guy or a team competing against your favorite squad, but the way people jumped on Bosh for showing emotion demonstrates a real problem in our culture. We have a serious problem with the way we treat emotion (particularly as men). We do not give our emotions the value they deserve
More often than not emotion is viewed as a hindrance. Rather than expressing our feelings in appropriate ways we ignore and stuff them away. Of course you can’t really ignore emotions. Unexpressed emotion will build under the surface like an agitated bottle of soda. If they are not dealt with an explosion is inevitable.
I don’t know why we do this. Maybe we don’t like that emotion is messy and can make us feel like we are not in control. We may avoid emotion in an effort to stay away from conflict or to keep from entering a deeper, more intimate relationship. Or if you are a man, you were likely told at some point that showing emotion (with the exception of anger) is unmanly.
The problem is that when we avoid emotion we neglect a precious gift from God. God created us as emotional beings. Since God doesn’t do anything without purpose, then our emotions must serve some important function. I believe that life in the kingdom of God is the life you were uniquely created to live. If you were created with emotions, then it follows that emotions must play a role in kingdom life.
Emotion is an incredible gift that serves us in a number of ways. Emotions can serve as signposts to our passions revealing things that carry deep importance to us. They can uncover areas of woundedness, experiences (ones that we may not be aware of) that need the healing presence God. And emotion draws us together into relationship with God and with each other. How would things go today if you were more aware of your emotions and chose to express them appropriately?